When we change our perspective and start thinking about the good things children are doing instead of always focusing on their shortcomings, we may also just change the way they see themselves.
Fellow GoodLetter readers,
Does it seem that we most often tend to talk about kids by referring to what's wrong with them? The problem-solving playground chat with other parents. The reason the teacher calls. The headlines in the paper screaming about the awful things teenagers do.
A few years ago, I heard a man named Peter Benson ask a different question: instead of just looking at what goes wrong with kids who get into trouble, what if we looked at what is right with kids who grow up without problems?
Benson and his colleagues have plumbed the depths of that question for over a decade now. A preacher's kid from Duluth, Minnesota, Benson learned about compassion and making a difference from his dad. His instincts for social change blended nicely with a love of interdisciplinary work. When he became president of the Minneapolis-based Search Institute in 1985, Benson refocused the organization's research agenda around trying to figure out how kids thrive in a complex world.
What the folks at Search have come up with is something very interesting called "developmental assets." No, not the financial kind. It refers to those important life ingredients that all kids need to grow up happy, healthy, and successful.
Search has worked with 1,000 communities across the nation to ask one million 6th-12th-grade kids what those ingredients are and how many of them they have. The assets have been distilled down to a list of 40, half of which are characterized as external (family communication, clear rules, community involvement), the rest are more internal (engaged in learning, values honesty and integrity, has a positive view of the future).
On average, the kids surveyed have just under half of the 40 assets. The exact mix varies by community, but a few trends hold true across the country. Sixth graders have more assets than 12th graders. Girls do better in some areas than boys. The more assets kids have, the less likely they are to engage in risky behaviors like alcohol and drug use. The more assets kids have, the more likely they are to be successful in school and maintain good health. And here's the really good news: you don't have to be a parent to build assets in kids. In fact, the more positive adults of all kinds in a kid's life, the better.
When Search Institute started spreading this information around, so many people were enthusiastic about it that Benson had to do more than just research. So Search Institute launched its Healthy Communities/Healthy Youth Initiative to help communities intentionally build assets in their youth. Over 650 communities in the U.S., Canada and, more recently, Mexico have projects underway that bring together a creative and enthusiastic mix of families, schools, organizations, governments, and agencies to find new ways of doing what's right for kids. Of the 40 asset-building states where such projects are running, 24 of them are happening statewide. Most are co-led by the youth themselves.
Some of these projects include:
Assets for Colorado Youth
Backed by a $10 million grant from the Colorado Trust, ACY has taken the lead nationally in combining asset building with a meaningful multicultural approach in its mission to transform social institutions on behalf of kids.
Portland, Oregon's Take the Time for Kids
This initiative is successfully working with local media to develop youth-oriented reporting that goes beyond sports and crime, as well as teaching adults in the community how they can support kids in simple, everyday ways.
Essex, Vermont's Community Helping Inspire People to Succeed (CHIPS)
Essex was one of several communities that recently won a $50,000 Jostens Our Town grant to further develop its successful asset-building efforts.
One of the things I like best about asset building is that it's not the flavor of the week for solving kids' problems. This work is, in fact, at its best when combined with other already-successful efforts. It's highly companionable with America's Promise, for example, and Peter Benson even served on AP's advisory committee with Colin Powell. The national YMCA has recently committed to infusing asset building into all 2500 of its branches in 10,000 cities.
I also like that asset building doesn't even require money, just that we begin looking at kids in a different way, talking to them, getting to know their names, just smiling at them on the street. When my own son has trouble at school, we no longer focus on just what went wrong, we look at all the things he's doing right and fashion a solution based on that. Peter Benson calls this "using our head and heart and research and wisdom" to support all children, one precious kid at a time.
:: Deborah Fisher
Deborah started rewriting Mother Goose rhymes at age five and hasn't stopped word-tinkering since. A former legal affairs reporter for Minnesota Public Radio, she thinks being able to pester people with questions for a living makes life good (for her at least). She writes from Seattle where she lives with her husband Mark, 13-year-old son Mack, and dog Prince, who all find her natural organizing skills amusing at best. [ Check out a few of her favorite goodthings ]
(Thoughts on Deborah's GoodLetter? Inspired by what you've read? E-mail us -- don't forget to tell us your name, where you're from, and if we can use your words in a future GoodLetter or on our Web site.)
TALK ABOUT IT
What do you do to see the best about the teenagers in your life? How do you encourage asset-building in children? Share your stories and ideas.
LEARN MORE ABOUT IT
:: Search Institute
:: The 40 assets
:: Assets for Colorado Youth
:: Take the Time for Kids (Portland, Oregon)
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT
:: Explore the children's asset-building that's happening near you and find out how you can get connected
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Favorite GoodThings 2001 Spotlight
Thanks again for all who participated in our Favorite GoodThings 2001 campaign by sending in your nominations! In 2002, we'll regularly feature profiles of last year's honorees in the GoodLetter, but you can always check out all the profiles for yourself in one place on our Web site. Check them out and be sure to let us know what you think.
This week, in keeping with the children's assets theme of this week's GoodLetter, we're happy to feature our "Favorite Opportunity for Youth Involvement":
City Year
It's a familiar scene in dozens of cities across the US: fifty young people in red jackets and work boots gathering for morning calisthenics. It's not an exuberant gym class, but rather City Year volunteers -- youth committed to a year of community service, leadership development and civic engagement. Over a thousand 17- to 24-year-olds serve each day as teachers' aides, youth mentors, tutors, camp counselors and diversity trainers. It's all a part of a vision to create an ethic of national service, to help foster community and communication between diverse groups of people, and to change the future through action today. Not a bad way to spend a year.
:: Learn more about City Year
We love to hear from you about anything: ideas or situations that are inspiring you or challenging you to think, as well as organizations, programs, and people that contribute to your community and the world everyday. Please drop us a line.
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The Upshot
Will peace ever prevail in the Middle East? A new documentary film hopes to educate people and change the conversation by looking at the ongoing conflict between the Israelis and the Palestinians through the eyes of children. The award-winning Promises steers clear of the alarming flood of tragic news from the region and focuses on stories that illustrate what it's like for seven complex nine- to thirteen-year-olds trying to carve out a childhood amidst the chaos. The film aired in the US on PBS during December, and can now be experienced on video, through interactive classroom materials, and in theaters in London and Boston later this month. Promises is a documentary journey predicated on the simple idea that only through peace will children have futures full of hope.
Learn more about the Promises Project. [Still more]
THE UPSHOT. Promises worth keeping.
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Good Gravy
Please click through to our Web site to see what we're reading, watching, and listening to and, while you're at it, let us know what we're missing.
Music
Great New Music! Because It Feel Good Kelly Hogan (2001). Kelly Hogan's brand of blue-eyed soul out-Dustys Dusty "Son of a Preacher Man" Springfield on this groovy new album. Read the review.
Books
Great Children's Book! The Breadwinner Deborah Ellis (2001). In this real-world adventure for mature children, a young Afghan girl emerges heroic from the embattled streets of Taliban-era Kabul. Read the review.
Movies
Great New Movie! Divided We Fall (2000). A safe haven in Nazi-occupied Czechoslovakia is the setting of this award-winning film about unlikely allies who discover solace, security, and beauty in each other. Read the review.
GoodThings on Public Radio
Have you been checking out the summaries of our favorite public radio stories? Here's a sample from this week's Morning Edition on National Public Radio:
Mutually Beneficial
The Thoroughbred Retirement Foundation is offering older race horses and imprisoned convicts in upstate New York a unique shot at redemption. 6,000 of the 10,000 American race horses that are retired each year end up slaughtered, either for dog food or for food in countries where horse meat is considered a delicacy. TRF programs place retired thoroughbreds in caring, nurturing environments. One such place happens to be the Wallkill, New York prison, where officials say the opportunity to care for old horses brings about compassion in even the most hardened, violent criminals. Some even suggest the special relationship permanently changes the lives of some men.
Visit our site to listen to this story and see what else has been on the radio this week.
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